Wednesday, May 01, 2013

Guest Blogger Denise Hildreth Jones

I was asked if I would like to have a guest blogger on my blog, and I jumped at the chance.
I think anyone who has ever suffered a broken heart in a relationship of any kind, would benefit.

Blog 1 – The Weary Heart
Running beneath a rain of birdseed, my husband opened the passenger door for me to climb inside as we started our life 
together. I grabbed the hem of my hand crocheted wedding dress that was over twenty years old and nestled myself 
into the seat. Laughter bounced through the air and love was almost touchable. My new groom climbed in beside me 
and in a moment a question came from the back seat. I looked back into the faces of five kiddos, who in one moment 
had all landed me in the new role of bonus-mom.
At the age of forty, having never had children of my own, I’d quickly come to discover that I had just entered a world as 
breathtaking as trying to drink water from a fire-hydrant.
I quickly delved into my new role of wife and bonus-mom. We didn’t have the kids all the time, so I still had time for 
ministry and writing responsibilities, but the new schedule of five kids all with activities, couponing (one trip to the 
grocery store gave me that revelation!), car-pooling and top chef, and it wasn’t long before I was weary. Bone weary.
A few years before I had found myself on the other side of a heartbreaking divorce. My heart was painfully shut down. I 
had shut down my voice. I had shut down my desires. I had shut down my dreams. I had shut down in fear, in anger, in 
disappointment, in performance. I had handed my heart over to a lie. And in the process, that beautiful, God-designed 
heart that had been created inside of me was a shut-down shell of the “abundant life” God had offered.
After that divorce I went on a desperate search for my heart. I reclaimed it in its deepest places. And then came my new 
family. The stress of navigating five hurting hearts. The new schedule. The old pains being pricked with the new intimacy 
that marriage inevitably brings. And a year and a half into bonus-momdom I had realized that I was on the verge of 
shutting down again in weariness if I didn’t grab a hold and do something different.
I was believing the lie of the weary heart that says, “God needs me.” God needs me to car pool these children. God 
needs me to coupon to save money, because to do anything else would be irresponsible. God needs me…and the list 
goes on.
And in that lie, I realized I was about to shut down all over again. But I heard God remind me, “Take my yoke upon you. 
For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” It was His yoke. He didn’t need me. He desired to use me, but He did not 
need me. And in that revelation I began to let go of a few things in order to give my kids the best of me. Something that 
might seem selfish actually ended up being selfless.
We can all shut down our hearts. In fact, some of us haven’t seen our real hearts in so long we wouldn’t even know what 
they looked like. Remember, “The thief comes to steal, kill and destroy.” But there is more to that Scripture, “But, I have 
come that you might have life and have it to the full!”
Friends, take heart. Yours. And do a heart check. Are you living life to the full? Or has living shut your heart down? God 
doesn’t need you. But oh how He desires to use you


Ellie VanCaster said...

Heh Jettie, thanks for sharing that-sounds really intersting!

Tete said...

This is wonderful. Everyone needs to read this.